These things never help to fix a problem and ultimately bring more hurt to all involved.These include, ultimatums, yelling, threatening to cut off the friendship, name calling, and personal attacks. Breathe, step back and allow some time before you try again.There is a marked difference in avoiding a hard topic and thoughtfully planning the ideal time to have a potentially difficult conversation.
“Treat your friends like you do your best pictures; place them in the best light.” ~Unknown I recently had a disagreement with a close friend.
There was a good deal of uncontrolled emotion on my side. I became more and more frustrated and less effective at explaining my feelings.
But arguments that sound like "Yes-No-Yes-No" go nowhere. Warn your child to be careful about asking friends "Why" questions those can sound critical. Adding a "please" also makes it easier for the friend to listen.
Asking questions can help kids understand better what the other person wants and why. We, adults, tend to want to talk everything out, but kids often resolve conflicts by just separating for a few minutes, hours, or days, and then coming together again and just being nice to each other.
What's the best way to approach a friend who's struggling with an eating disorder, fighting a drug problem, mourning the loss of a parent or battling depression?
How can you be helpful when you're not going through they problem they're going through?
It was my inability to effectively convey what was in my heart and on my mind that led to hurt feelings and further misunderstanding.
After much self examination, I’ve come up with a few tips to communicate effectively during a conflict. In my case, I felt I needed to bring the subject up right then or I might not have gotten the nerve again.
I was embarrassed and grateful, but I realized I needed to evaluate a few of my shortcomings to avoid making the same mistake again.
I also realized that what I was feeling wasn’t the problem.